Living in laughter can be an act of faith. When life is smooth and easy, laugh. When you are driving for hours on the most textured dirt road you have ever experienced and you have no water to drink, definitely laugh – and sing – and laugh some more. Here, in the midst of political uncertainty, social unrest, a frequent lack of city electricity, a university where students live awaiting the return of professors who desire higher salaries . . . laughter is essential to living well. I find that many of the believers I am among know this secret.
On Saturday we attended a village wedding. Leaving at 6 am to attend the ceremony that followed an all-night party, we arrived by the fastest route, about a 2 hour drive. Upon arrival, I was swept into the world of African women, escorted by Abi and Madame Clana, with whom we traveled. Madame and her family live on the Bouake campus – her husband is the campus director. Abi works here during the week and is quickly becoming a dear friend. Both are beautiful Ivorian believers. I donned a colorful outfit that Abi lent me for the day and Madame easily made the necessary adjustments for the top to fit. (A quick side note: here, the colorfully dressed women, about half of which are carrying babies on their backs, make the landscape beautiful – quite the contrast to city streets covered with garbage).
After visiting our Bouake church pastor’s mother-in-law, who lives in the village, we made our way back to sit down for the ceremony around 10 am. A worship band was singing in one corner of the outdoor semi-enclosure set up for the ceremony. The first couple arrived about 11:45 and processed to designated chairs covered with bright pagners (cloths). Then, three more couples arrived about 12, walking in accompanied by a youth choir. More music and introductions followed, including a welcome to Ba Souleyman (Son of Solomon, Rod’s Jula title) and the only other white guest at the wedding (me!).
About three hours later, after a ceremony conducted in two languages I did not understand - and during which I never quite succeeded at napping as some of the other attendees did - everyone got up to congratulate the couples with cheek to cheek kisses. We ate a meal of Attieke (made from maniocs and quite tasty) accompanied by a small amount of meat and vegetables as well as sweet red Bisap and tangy ginger juice served in plastic bags (you drink by piercing a corner of the bag with your teeth and sucking the juice out).
Leaving a little after 4, we piled 7 adults, one toddler and a live chicken (feet tied) into the Land Rover and headed back on the shorter route - a dirt road unlike any I have ever experienced. Almost 5 hours later after one flat tire, almost constant bouncing, multiple road blocks (as is typical in rebel territory), frequent traversal of puddles and unforgettable songs and laughter, we made it home to Bouake parched and exhausted but happy.
In choosing to thank God in the midst of the realities of heat and thirst, I experienced a joy in community – fed by and expressed in laughter - that went far beyond being physically comfortable. What a gift indeed!
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